Wednesday, April 14, 2010

matchmaking the multitudes

wow i am behind. but i'm back.

life turns into a major blur and it gets just so chaotic and i get majorly disoriented. but i have still been thinking and trying to come up with something that is worthwhile to put up on here for all to see. this week in church pastor matt began a series on touch and what sex means in the context of the church, but he spent much of his sermon discussing marriage and God's intention behind creating man and wife for one another.

so, in this vein, but not along the same path, i will be talking about God's creation of woman for man, specifically adam, in genesis 2.

"The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman,'
for she was taken out of man."

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." -Genesis 2:18-24

now that we have read those verses i am going to go in a completely different direction. there are dozens of matchmaking sites on the web, compatibility tests and materials, and tv programs that market the ability to tell you if he or she is "the one".

these specific shows are so very interesting to me. they promise to form you into the perfect woman for him who is sure to be your perfect man. but is that what God wrote in the bible? does it say anywhere, "hey you will have a perfect group of people who will be perfect for you because you are perfect." well, not in my bible.

our culture has found these short cuts for us. no wonder divorce runs so rampant in our society. no one is searching for their God given match, but instead they are just looking for their the one as determined by the world's standards. i, too, was a part of this in high school. who's the cutest boy? who makes me laugh the most? who is the funnest? who says the most romantic things?

by God's standards these are not the criteria for mr. perfect. He didn't make us to bargain for marriage. He made someone that is perfect for me, and only me. unfortunately, society has stripped God of His role as our matchmaker and given it to other men. it is important to realize the role of God in our lives as believers.

i want to encourage women, whether single or married, to encourage daughters, friends, sisters who are single to remember that their love lives are in the hand of the ultimate matchmaker. remembering Him in those moments of frustration and loneliness will help pass those feelings. as seen in the scripture above, God has created a match for every man. He created man and woman in pairs, not to stand alone.

however, He does not lay out a specific timeline about how each pair of man and wife come together. this is important to keep in mind. for some it's early and obvious, for others there are years of failed relationships and dates. what is important is to keep your journey towards a match centered around Him.

song of the day: cinderella - stephen curtis chapman.
throughout the course of the song the young girl goes from being daddy's little girl to being a wife. i will continue with this soon... daddy's girl is such a perfect topic for later.